29 may 2019
long night long meeting coming out relaxing work
Wed May 29 23:00:12 EDT 2019
My fiancee and I had a long night last night and got to talking about a lot of the things that needed to be said. Things like our worries for the future, the possibility (almost guaranteed) that her family might stop speaking to her if/when we come out to them. We talked about our 3 main options: tell her family now and potentially ruin our wedding; never tell them/wait until it's too obvious and potentially ruin their relationship more than if we just talked now; and not be together which would ruin both of us. Well, that's the pessimistic view and the one we entered the conversation with. By the end, I think we're both on the same page that we would rather be together no matter what and that, whatever happens happens.
She has since talked to her sister who has a much more optimistic view of it, and I think that eased a lot of her worries.
Had a long meeting with my advisor: 2.5 hours! These are normal for us, but apparently it's not normal for others? One of the cornerstones of our meetings with him is that he likes to say the "joke" of:
You either need trans(actions journal papers) or be trans(gender) [to get a job].
Of course, I'm a weenie so I didn't say anything in the meeting (again), but it did give me the courage to come out to a good friend and coworker. It's been a really long time since I've come out to someone and thankfully it went well. I knew this friend was already trans-friendly because of how they've talked about the only (other?) openly trans girl at school.
The rest of the day was spent relaxing. I had a nice trip downtown with my fiancee, ate some good food, got some good ice cream, and went to a store we both like. Then we came home and played some Mario Kart 8 and relaxed.
Work reared its head again and I have more things to do (revise a paper to submit in a handful of days) but I'm feeling okay about it. It's not my favorite thing, but maybe this will give me enough motivation to get other work done. At least, I hope.