8 october 2025
I wonder why, when I tell people about problems I've resolved as a story, they always think I'm asking them for advice or ask clarifying questions.
I just wanna yap to get out the bad feelings, for crying out loud - even if I send it to the vent channel or tell them explicitly I need to vent, some select individuals keep saying "I don't see the problem if xyz" or "Why do you think xyz? Just talk to them." Or worst of all, they interject before I am done and ask me if I've tried something I'm about to talk about.
Is the problem with me, I wonder? Just based on the fact that this is several people, my parents included, and despite me trying to be as clear as possible that it is resolved and I do NOT want an analysis, or follow-up questions, or anything else; just to get it off my chest.
It is very weird, and if I say "This conversation is making me uncomfortable; can we change the topic?" I'm the asshole since I brought it up. How the fuck do you get out of a conversation about something you brought up, without being a jerk? It seems impossible. What the fuck.
Resolved matters once again find ways to bug me. I should literally stop anticipating and start living, and all of the seemingly terrible stuff that I am trying to hold onto will stop bothering me. No one is taking the skin off my back, unless I extrapolate unrelated actions into construing them as having done so.