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20 november 2025

I had some recurring dreams about my ex again. It's my fault for telling myself that on this one day, it was ok to think about her while I was awake. I'll know better next time :) I did a physical tarot reading (past-present-future) and it was good. I even drew two cards for the future, by accident. The cards were as follows:

Past: Queen of Swords, meaning perceptiveness, awareness, clear communication and sharp wits to overcome adversity and get to a place of strength and self-sufficiency.

Present: Five of Cups (reversed), meaning accepting, forgiving, moving on, healing. Quite amusingly, upright it represents loss, grief, disappointment, a period of intense sorrow or regret over something that has been lost, crying over spilled milk. So, I guess I'm gonna finally let myself be. But that all depends on me, myself and I :)

Future: The Fool, and Six of Swords, meaning [new beginnings, innocence, adventure, possibilities] and [Transition, recovery, travel, refuge] which are also good.

As it currently stands, I think this would concern two things that have been weighing on my mind to varying degrees, and I cannot determine which it is:

  1. I've been able to remain aware and maintain my senses with regards to who I am and what I should be doing for myself. I will finally forgive and move on from my past relationship, including in the ways that manifest only subconsciously (as I have gotten over the part where I feel like I need to talk about it all the time, or any of the time.) In the near future, I will have a new beginning and/or experiment with someone new, perhaps several new people, and then in the more distant future, I will transition to a new period in life where I may or may not be alone or need to recover from my endeavours.

  2. My hunch was correct that one of my FWBs is reconnecting with her ex and lying to me that she's sick/busy/just straight-up disappearing on me because she feels awkward admitting that she's going back to her ex. There is a chance that I am paranoid, and while I know that she's reconnected with her ex for a fact, I do not know the extent of this. I cannot be, and I am not, jealous, as we are not dating. If I get attached, I will end up feeling like I'm the one being used instead of simply enjoying it while it's there, and saying "ok" when it's gone. I should do exactly that: accept, forgive and move on if I would like, or be okay with it if not. The future cards say that I will most likely move on and find someone new, or transition to a new period where I go back to doing my personal projects for myself, and by myself. (For clarification, what I would be forgiving is not someone who is free to do whatever they want doing whatever they want. The thing I would be forgiving is the disrespect of my time and the insult to my intelligence that would be represented by lying about the reasons for rescheduling.)

Either way, I will be (and currently am) entirely fine, as long as I don't think too hard about these things. I don't necessarily trust tarot cards to predict the inalterable fate of my life, as if it is predetermined, but they are a great tool to work through and think about stuff that nags on the mind, yet is not processable with the noise of day-to-day life going on at the same time. Or, I am looking for convenient distractions in order to not perform the basic needs of self-talk and dialectic analysis.

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